Coaching and Kink Mentoring by John Pendal
“John is a very approachable man who inspires confidence. I felt happy talking to him about my problems and felt happier each time we completed a session. I would definitely recommend him” - Dave
Kink mentoring and life coaching are now available from BDSM educator and former International Mr Leather, John Pendal - either as video calls to individuals and relationship groups, or workshops to larger numbers. (A list of workshops available can be found here.)
KINK MENTORING
I have 18 years experience teaching BDSM workshops around the world. My passion is helping people find their way in kink, leather and BDSM. One-to-one sessions are completely confidential and individually tailored.
I have 18 years experience teaching BDSM workshops around the world. My passion is helping people find their way in kink, leather and BDSM. One-to-one sessions are completely confidential and individually tailored.
"John is an excellent listener. He takes his time getting to know you and your interests, give you a combination of things to think about, point you to references and resources in the gay/kink world, and provide practical advice about how to start or restart a life in kink." - Anthony
LIFE COACHING
I am relatable rather than aspirational. During my life I have experienced negative thoughts, gay conversion therapy, coeliac disease, back surgery and am autistic.
I want to help other people, especially those who feel like an outsider. You may feel that way because of your gender or sexuality, neurodiversity, health diagnosis or just a feeling of "not fitting in". I will listen and ask questions in total confidence and without judgement.
I specialise in coaching for self acceptance and happiness. My work includes helping newly diagnosed autistic folk work out what that means, discovering where masking ends and you begin, and how to change your life to better fit your neurology.
Coaching can help with all areas of your life. I have helped people discover who they are, what their passions are, find their voice, achieve goals, accept themselves, grow in confidence, be happier and change their lives.
If you would like an introductory call please fill in the form here. (You are welcome to wear dark glasses during calls, have the camera turned off, switch to text chat, fidget, info-dump or anything else that will make you feel more comfortable.)
If you'd like to hear me talk more about being a coach for autistic and kinky folk I've been interviewed by Gem Kennedy for the Queers & Co podcast (queersandco.captivate.fm/episode/027), and by Robert Black for Sexual Heroes (buzzsprout.com/1184882/9782768). You can hear both interviews by clicking on the links.
I am relatable rather than aspirational. During my life I have experienced negative thoughts, gay conversion therapy, coeliac disease, back surgery and am autistic.
I want to help other people, especially those who feel like an outsider. You may feel that way because of your gender or sexuality, neurodiversity, health diagnosis or just a feeling of "not fitting in". I will listen and ask questions in total confidence and without judgement.
I specialise in coaching for self acceptance and happiness. My work includes helping newly diagnosed autistic folk work out what that means, discovering where masking ends and you begin, and how to change your life to better fit your neurology.
Coaching can help with all areas of your life. I have helped people discover who they are, what their passions are, find their voice, achieve goals, accept themselves, grow in confidence, be happier and change their lives.
If you would like an introductory call please fill in the form here. (You are welcome to wear dark glasses during calls, have the camera turned off, switch to text chat, fidget, info-dump or anything else that will make you feel more comfortable.)
If you'd like to hear me talk more about being a coach for autistic and kinky folk I've been interviewed by Gem Kennedy for the Queers & Co podcast (queersandco.captivate.fm/episode/027), and by Robert Black for Sexual Heroes (buzzsprout.com/1184882/9782768). You can hear both interviews by clicking on the links.
"John Pendal is an awesome presenter!" - Midori
"John Pendal is quite incredible. An English BDSM educator with fascinating perspectives on autism and kink" - Susanna
"John Pendal is quite incredible. An English BDSM educator with fascinating perspectives on autism and kink" - Susanna
HOW DOES IT WORK?
Coaching takes place over instant messenger, audio or video calls, so you can be calling from anywhere in the world. You need to be sitting somewhere quiet and private where you can think and speak without being overheard.
We start with a free call to get to know one another. If you wish to continue we will discuss the best way forward for you (number of calls, duration, dates and times) and sign a coaching agreement. Sessions are paid at the time of booking and can be cancelled up to 24 hours notice with no charge - after that the full fee is payable.
This is not a sexual service and sessions are client led.
QUALIFICATIONS AND MEMBERSHIPS
FAA Level 2 Award in First Aid for Mental Health
FAA Level 3 Award in Supervising First Aid for Mental Health
Accredited coach with Animas Centre for Coaching
Associate coach with Thriving Autistic
Member of the International Coaching Federation
CONFIDENTIALITY
I will need to store your phone number or email electronically to set up the calls. I will also ask if I can take hand-written notes during the calls without using your name. I won't divulge to anyone that you are being coached or anything you've shared. If we meet socially I won't make reference to your calls. (I'm happy for you to tell other people if you want to make a referral.)
(Registered with the Information Commissioner's Office for data protection. I have passed checks from the Disclosure & Barring Service in Feb 2022 and the Irish Vetting Service in June 2021 and can send proof on request.)
For more information check out my life coaching website at www.johnpendal.com
Coaching takes place over instant messenger, audio or video calls, so you can be calling from anywhere in the world. You need to be sitting somewhere quiet and private where you can think and speak without being overheard.
We start with a free call to get to know one another. If you wish to continue we will discuss the best way forward for you (number of calls, duration, dates and times) and sign a coaching agreement. Sessions are paid at the time of booking and can be cancelled up to 24 hours notice with no charge - after that the full fee is payable.
This is not a sexual service and sessions are client led.
QUALIFICATIONS AND MEMBERSHIPS
FAA Level 2 Award in First Aid for Mental Health
FAA Level 3 Award in Supervising First Aid for Mental Health
Accredited coach with Animas Centre for Coaching
Associate coach with Thriving Autistic
Member of the International Coaching Federation
CONFIDENTIALITY
I will need to store your phone number or email electronically to set up the calls. I will also ask if I can take hand-written notes during the calls without using your name. I won't divulge to anyone that you are being coached or anything you've shared. If we meet socially I won't make reference to your calls. (I'm happy for you to tell other people if you want to make a referral.)
(Registered with the Information Commissioner's Office for data protection. I have passed checks from the Disclosure & Barring Service in Feb 2022 and the Irish Vetting Service in June 2021 and can send proof on request.)
For more information check out my life coaching website at www.johnpendal.com
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TESTIMONIALS
“John's mentoring sessions were an excellent way for me to ask questions and explore both my own kinks and the broader world of fetish and BDSM. With John's refined skill set in coaching and years of experience in the kink world, he offers a professional service that allows individuals to explore and navigate their desires without it getting confused with sex work or ulterior motives. John has a wealth of specific and practical knowledge that will no doubt be useful in your particular situation. Also, whether or not you are neurodivergent, John's bespoke infographics are excellent resources for navigating your unique place in an overwhelming world.” - Henry
"I'm very grateful for my time with John. Not knowing what to expect from a BDSM mentor it exceeded any expectation. Each call was highly engaging, thoughtful and brought new personal insights. Those insights were applicable across my entire life, not just the self in the BDSM world. John's experience, confidence, ability to ask the right question and listen made each call better than the last. He was able to quickly understand who I am and how I want to show up in the BDSM space. He tailored our discussions and guidance in a way that met me where I'm at on the journey and broke down any fear that I may have had. I highly recommend John and look forward to future calls with him.” – Kurt, London
“John's mentoring sessions were an excellent way for me to ask questions and explore both my own kinks and the broader world of fetish and BDSM. With John's refined skill set in coaching and years of experience in the kink world, he offers a professional service that allows individuals to explore and navigate their desires without it getting confused with sex work or ulterior motives. John has a wealth of specific and practical knowledge that will no doubt be useful in your particular situation. Also, whether or not you are neurodivergent, John's bespoke infographics are excellent resources for navigating your unique place in an overwhelming world.” - Henry
"I'm very grateful for my time with John. Not knowing what to expect from a BDSM mentor it exceeded any expectation. Each call was highly engaging, thoughtful and brought new personal insights. Those insights were applicable across my entire life, not just the self in the BDSM world. John's experience, confidence, ability to ask the right question and listen made each call better than the last. He was able to quickly understand who I am and how I want to show up in the BDSM space. He tailored our discussions and guidance in a way that met me where I'm at on the journey and broke down any fear that I may have had. I highly recommend John and look forward to future calls with him.” – Kurt, London
RESOURCES
I have created a model to describe BDSM sexuality, which can help people to analyse the kind of scenes they are looking for. You can read about the model here.
From 2003-2005 I wrote an advice column, and some of the answers related to kink. There's a list of the columns here.
Greenery Press have also published a range of pocket guides to various forms of BDSM (www.greenerypress.com/toybag-guides---a-workshop/) - available from many online booksellers.
I have created a model to describe BDSM sexuality, which can help people to analyse the kind of scenes they are looking for. You can read about the model here.
From 2003-2005 I wrote an advice column, and some of the answers related to kink. There's a list of the columns here.
Greenery Press have also published a range of pocket guides to various forms of BDSM (www.greenerypress.com/toybag-guides---a-workshop/) - available from many online booksellers.
"Thanks for the workshop you did online today. My partner was on the call and it gave us a great opportunity to talk about our own desires and boundaries! Thank you." - Rob, Melbourne
BIO
I am a cisgender gay man (pronouns he/ him). In 2003 I became the 25th person to win the annual International Mr Leather contest in Chicago. Since then I have travelled extensively teaching BDSM workshops around the world, including Beyond Leather in Fort Lauderdale (2018 & 2019); Darklands, Antwerp (2020); Down an Dirty in Melbourne, Australia (2015 in person & 2020/2022 online); Edgeplay Scotland group in Edinburgh (2016-2019); HunCon in Budapest (2019 & 2022); Inferno (2009 & 2010); Kink Between the Lines (2022); Kink Convention in Denmark (2022); Kinkferansen in Oslo (2019); Kinkfest in London (2005 & 2008); Kinky Queer Weekend (2021); Leather Camp in Wichita (2006); London Alternative Market (2008, 2016-2021); Lupercalia in Canada (2017 & 2018); Minnesota Leather Pride (2004); Mr Leatherman Toronto (2007); Palm Springs Leather Pride (2004); The Red Horse Society (2021); Rome BDSM Conference (2017); SINSations in Leather (2010); SM Bergen, Norway (2020); SM Gays in London (2017 & 2018); Spring in the South in Atlanta (2008); Tribal Fire in Oklahoma (2009); and Thunder in the Mountains in Denver (every year from 2007 to 2017).
For my full leather bio please check out www.leatherlondonguide.com/profile.html
I am a cisgender gay man (pronouns he/ him). In 2003 I became the 25th person to win the annual International Mr Leather contest in Chicago. Since then I have travelled extensively teaching BDSM workshops around the world, including Beyond Leather in Fort Lauderdale (2018 & 2019); Darklands, Antwerp (2020); Down an Dirty in Melbourne, Australia (2015 in person & 2020/2022 online); Edgeplay Scotland group in Edinburgh (2016-2019); HunCon in Budapest (2019 & 2022); Inferno (2009 & 2010); Kink Between the Lines (2022); Kink Convention in Denmark (2022); Kinkferansen in Oslo (2019); Kinkfest in London (2005 & 2008); Kinky Queer Weekend (2021); Leather Camp in Wichita (2006); London Alternative Market (2008, 2016-2021); Lupercalia in Canada (2017 & 2018); Minnesota Leather Pride (2004); Mr Leatherman Toronto (2007); Palm Springs Leather Pride (2004); The Red Horse Society (2021); Rome BDSM Conference (2017); SINSations in Leather (2010); SM Bergen, Norway (2020); SM Gays in London (2017 & 2018); Spring in the South in Atlanta (2008); Tribal Fire in Oklahoma (2009); and Thunder in the Mountains in Denver (every year from 2007 to 2017).
For my full leather bio please check out www.leatherlondonguide.com/profile.html
Page updated 13 November 2022
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With the exception of Thriving Autistic, I have no relationship or affiliate advertising with any products, organisations or applications shared on this website. Any resources listed here are for information only and are used at your own risk.
